What can you do to create a healthy relationship with your daughter? Dr. James Dobson gives us six suggestions.
On his website, Dr. James Dobson’s familytalk.org, Dobson says there are many times a parents authority will be challenged. He writes, in those times “it is extremely important for you to “win.”
The reason, a child who behaves in ways that are disrespectful or harmful to herself or others often has a hidden motive. Whether she recognizes it or not, she is usually seeking to verify the existence and stability of the boundaries.
So he offers how-to’s of shaping a child’s will.
First: Begin Teaching Respect for Authority While Children Are Very Young…in the preschool years.
Second: Define the Boundaries before They Are Enforced
Preceding any disciplinary event is the necessity of establishing reasonable expectations and boundaries for the child.
Third: Distinguish between Willful Defiance and Childish Irresponsibility. When accidents happen, patience and tolerance are the order of the day.
Fourth: Reassure and Teach after the Confrontation Is Over. By all means, open your arms and welcome her!
Fifth: Avoid Impossible Demands. Be absolutely sure that your child is capable of delivering what you require.
And finally: Let Love Be Your Guide! A relationship that is characterized by genuine love and affection is likely to be a healthy one.